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Thinking about the onset of the colder darker months always depresses me a little. I love the spring and summer the light nights and walks in the warmth of the sun.
It made me wonder about my ability to let go, in a number of the Buddhas teachings he talks of suffering due to our inability to let go of the things that we get pleasure from.
I'm afraid I'm guilty of this, I find letting go one of my biggest flaws. I cling to the things I enjoy, and sure enough when they go or change as inevitably they will it does cause me to suffer.
So I understand the principle how do I change though? As much as I try I enjoy what I enjoy and feel awful when it goes. I try to say oh well it's time to move on, but this seldom works.
It then makes me wonder if any one is any different, can people let go of the things that pleasure them without any emotion or suffering. How then does the Buddha expect people to move on. And how do we get past clinging to the past.

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Comment by Kaspalita on September 7, 2016 at 14:56

There's a saying I heard once, from a friend in the 12 steps movement, "I never let go of anything that didn't have my claw marks all over it."

This is how it is to be human. We love, and we hold on to the things and people we love, and then it's painful when they go away. This is Dukkha, not having what you want, being separated from people you love, and so on.

Amida loves us, even as we grasp onto what has already passed. 

I'm also reminded of a quote by Robert Frost, "The only way out is through."

In my experience 'letting go' can be the process you describe. Sometimes letting go is like releasing the string of a floating balloon, but often letting go means grieving something.

If we expect to grieve, if we understand that it's in our nature to mourn loss, and even to deny it, maybe we can allow the letting go process to take a little longer, to be a little kinder to ourselves, to have less expectation of moving straight to acceptance.


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