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By Dharmavidya and originally published as a part of the book 'Not Everything is Impermanent'

So the question that then comes up is, what do we mean by a noble or honourable life? Here the conclusions that I have arrived at suggest that a number of qualities are crucially important. I would like to highlight honesty, selflessness, humility and gratitude. I would like to say a little about each of these.

First, however, I would like to say that the Buddha also has a list. Actually, he has many lists, but the best known one is love, compassion, sympathy and equanimity. Now in this I do not disagree with him at all. I think these two lists are simply two different ways of saying the same thing. At the core of all is love. Nobility is to have the courage of love. Love and compassion naturally go together, one being to wish others good things and the other being to wish them relief from bad things. These together constitute sympathy, but sympathy needs to be stabilised by equanimity which is the resilience to take the rough with the smooth. Although a noble person always strives for the best, he or she has to cope with the fact that the best cannot always be attained. Bad things still happen.

Here in this world we all try to love, but love always runs into difficulties and sometimes we are defeated by them. It takes courage to love again and to go on loving in the face of defeat, rejection or betrayal. Nonetheless, that is what nobility requires.

So this takes me back to my own list of key qualities. Firstly honesty. It seems to me that it is exceedingly difficult for us to be deeply honest. We have such depths of complicated motivations that we do not know ourselves very well. When we look closely we find all kinds of contradictions in our make-up. Also, we feel under a continual social pressure. Nobody really wants us to be totally honest. They actually want us to be supportive, sensitive, and conformist, but not honest. So in order to live in society we do well to dissemble about all manner of things. While we become very skilled at playing the social game, our spiritual life asks us to nonetheless preserve some space where we can be as completely honest as we are capable of being. This is an area where we can help one another. We all need a confidante or confessor who will listen and not judge us. Such wise counsellors are few and far between, even among those who have been trained in counselling or psychotherapy or pastoral care. Creating safe spaces where deeper honesty is possible is one of the things that a spiritual community should always work on.

Secondly, selflessness. To be truly selfless is even more difficult than to be truly honest. Of course, there are innumerable social situations where we do put others before ourselves in practical ways and this is good. This is part of the development of civilisation. True selflessness, however, goes much deeper than good manners. The noble person does the right thing whether it serves their own personal interests or not. For the truly honourable person it does not really matter whether they are in heaven or in hell, they still act in the same spirit. In an important sense, we are always in heaven and always also in hell. There is, however, also a deeper understanding. The truly noble person actually never acts against his own interests because he sees deeply enough to know that "the right thing" is never at odd with his ultimate spiritual well-being. This is what living a spiritual life implies.

Then thirdly, humility. This is the saving grace of all graces. Humility begins, perhaps, with the realisation that we are not always completely honest and certainly not always selfless. We are human and humans are rather cunning, destructive animals. We can also be timid, ashamed, anxious, and querulous, not to mention our propensities toward greed, slander, envy and jealousy. One could go on and make a long list. Of course, the noble person does overcome some of these foibles, but desire does not lie down and die until we do and there is no likelihood that we shall eliminate all sin this side of the grave.

So if perfection is not attainable, what is the noble life that Buddha is talking about? I do not think that we should imagine that there is a state or status that we can reach in which greed, hate and delusion will never arise. Rather, I think the Buddha is talking about how to handle the situation when they do. When things go wrong, that is the time when enlightenment is possible. It is exactly when primitive feelings bubble up that we have at hand the energy to take a further step toward spiritual liberation. Each time we do so we over-turn a thousand years of bad karma at least.

How can we do so? Paradoxically, not really by our own power. What lifts us at such times is whatever inspires us. It comes like a voice out of the future. We shall only change our ways in order to create a better future for those or that which we love. We shall not do it for ourselves. Self-help books can reiterate that “You are worth it”, “Take care of yourself”, “Do it for yourself” and so on endlessly, but people do not generally make supreme efforts on their own behalf. They do it for others, or for something other, and they do it for the future. Ensuring the better future of others is what we mean by love.

Noble ones are those who live their love and, in the process, learn what they need to learn and overcome whatever it is in themselves that they have to overcome. In this they are certainly helped. When one looks at a noble person, one might think of them as self-reliant, but they themselves do not feel like that. They themselves are likely to be much more conscious of all the help they have received. Some of this help seems to be the work of providence, the experiences they have confronted in life, and some of it has come through encounters with, or the examples provided by, other people. Nobility starts with gratitude for all this. That is what supports a humble attitude which then erodes self-centredness. So the honourable life is one that is constantly evolving between the poles of gratitude and honesty.

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Some things to ponder about by Satya - do please share your thoughts on these questions or anything else that strikes you: 

- how do you do when it comes to honesty, selflessness, humility and gratitude? Which comes most naturally? Which is most difficult?

- What lifts and inspires you?

- When have you had an experience of making supreme effort on someone else's behalf?

- How are you left feeling after reading this piece?

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Thanks Satya. I think it has to be said that I depend on Buddha for all of these qualities. My recovery from negative habitual patterns puts me in a position which allows a great capacity for these principles, as long as I maintain my relationship with a higher power. Even with
the support of my HP, I still find it difficult applying these things in my life and they can all be equally challenging. I do find though that to keep an open mind and listen to feedback from other trusted practitioners, no matter how painful it feels, can be a gateway to recieving what I need to get me through my personal trials. Basically it seems to come down to this: I practice, and get some recovery, which can include honesty, humility, etc. Applying these principles in my life makes me feel good which inspires me to practice some more and the cycle continues. I think that there are certain of these qualities that do come more naturally than others but on my own power they just get drowned out by ego!! I'm much happier just accepting my spiritual vulnerability and leaning on Amida than trying to work out how good I am! Great reading, thanks. Namo Amida Bu(. :

Thank you - yes, that cycle is nicely explained!

"Of course, the noble person does overcome some of these foibles, but desire does not lie down and die until we do and there is no likelihood that we shall eliminate all sin this side of the grave." I find this sentence (and this general principle in Pureland Buddhism) hugely relieving and affirming. I can get a glimpse of this, and then before too long I am again expecting that I will be able to cut out all my compulsions and greed, if only I just try a little bit harder, or take a new strategy... I wonder how it would be to just allow a bit more space for all that stuff, and to carry on my life regardless, not taking up energy with the self-perfection project but allowing myself to be drawn forward by Amida? Maybe this is another attempt at fixing it!! Namo Amida Bu. 

Lovely piece Satya

I find honesty to be my easiest trait, followed by selfishness and humility. I do show gratitude but get a bit embarrassed when people give me presents or do something for me.

I am lifted and inspired by the thought of the Pure land and also being part of the Amida family. The supreme effort I made was to arrange my friends funeral as his wife was so distraught at losing him she could not cope. I found reading this piece very inspiring.

Thank you Satya

Namo Amida Bu

What a beautiful image. Just to check you know that Dharmavidya wrote this, Colin? It's a part of his book Not Everything Is Impermanent which I'd recommend! Sounds like you found some strength within you when you really needed to - am sure your friend was very grateful. It's good to have you as a part of the family!

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